Middle Man

Once again, I am the middle man, but this time it is between my husband and my father. My husband works for my father. On Friday, my father yelled at my husband, who thought that it was unnecessary. After my husband told me the his side of the story, I agreed that it was unnecessary. My husband was supposed to go out and help my father on Saturday, but he refused because of the incident on Friday.

So here I was, knowing that my dad needed help. He helps us a great deal. He is also not as young as he used to be and I worry that he works to hard, so I like to make sure he has help when doing large projects. But on the other hand I wanted to stand behind my husband, his feelings and his decisions.

What to do, what to do? I could encourage my husband to put aside the anger and help my dad or I could let my husband cool off. I didn't want to make the situation worse. To have and to hold, or to honor thy father. Which takes precedence? In the end, I chose to have and to hold. Once you get married, you break from your parents and join to your spouse. As much as it breaks my heart, it was the right choice. I did, however, call my parents and let them know that my husband was not coming.

Of course, tomorrow is Father's Day, so we will have to see if the anger is gone and all can be mended. We'll see....